The Art of Consideration


We live in a world that seems to demand that we be focused on ourselves, our aspirations, and our development. And while that is all good – when focusing on these things gets out of balance, it can result in us becoming self-absorbed and loosing our consideration.

I have been incredibly fortunate to be surrounded by considerate people – my friends especially, are living embodiments of consideration. Take the one who showed up at my house with a birthday present in the midst of preparing for her wedding that was only a couple of days later or the one that got a healthy meal made for me when I was unwell during law school in the midst of her final exams.

These girls have been my inspiration.

The truth is that there is so much more to life than just yourself. And making the mental space for others and actively checking in and caring about others is how we should all exist as human beings. I believe the world functioned this way back in the older days, where a community based approach to living and watching out for your tribe was a natural way of being. Somehow, over time, society has become increasingly egocentric by placing people’s individual needs over the needs of others. This tendency may be allowing for an incredible amount of success, especially in one’s career life, but it’s poisoning relationships and making people forget that another person’s life is equally as important as their own – irrespective of race, class, gender, profession, or religious background.

I think that we each have so much to offer to others and that connecting with others, sharing ideas and helping is so important.

So it saddens me to see a culture where consideration is a somewhat rare trait. Where people don’t care about someone unless that someone is “of their own”. Where basic principles of being respectful and kind and reciprocating assistance is thrown out the window in favour of focusing on oneself. Where people expect for the world to bend for them but not the other way around.

Have we not failed as a society in inculcating good values if people are operating solely from their ego?

Consideration in Energy Healing
The energy center that speaks to how we relate to others is the sacral chakra. This energy center tends to have an over-active “yan” or masculine energy when one is self-focused or an over-active “yin” energy when one is overly focused on others. The key is for a healthy balance – one that allows you to progress forward personally but does not impact your consideration for others.

The heart chakra is the center of giving. An open heart gives and a closed one only receives.

A good energy healing session can restore balance to both these chakras.

To work on your consideration alongside energy healing, start off by checking in with other people, seeing how you can help, and taking out time everyday to do something for someone other than for yourself.

As Ellen Degeneres says, “be kind to one another” – always.