To the Bettys of This World


Okay – this one is for the ladies but men, feel free to substitute yourself in Betty’s place if you feel you can relate.

Back in the day when Archie Comics were a thing, who did you relate to? Was it Betty? Or Veronica?

I personally related to Betty and I still do. I remember complaining to my friends for years about being Betty, not Veronica, and most men not valuing that.

I also remember falling in love with Michael Vartan’s character in “Never Been Kissed” when he told Drew Barrymore’s character – a young, not so popular, sweet girl “I always liked Betty better”.

I’m sure any girl who identifies with Betty would swoon at the thought of a man loving the Betty in her. Betty was sweet, caring, down-to-earth and real.

Veronica was… legs… I mean don’t get me wrong – she had her moments, but she was super high maintenance and kind of superficial.

I have so many friends who have been rejected on the basis of their good “Betty character”. None of them expected being rejected for having values that they have paid attention to cultivating because they are genuinely committed to being good human beings. And that’s why it hurts them so much – because if someone doesn’t think you’re physically attractive it can certainly mess with your self-esteem but when the basis of rejection runs to the core of who you are, it just hurts on a whole other level.

So to those women who can relate and are still single and frustrated, I say this – say bye to the men who don’t value and appreciate you for who you are. Never change the Betty in you to please the man who expects a Veronica. And if a man finds your good character intimidating and runs for the hills – great – he’s not the right person for you.

I honestly believe that there’s no such thing as “the one” – don’t be discouraged if the person you thought was “the one” didn’t work out. The universe always sends soulmate relationships our way. These are relationships marked by a deep connection, mutual respect and appreciation. You should always choose someone who deserves you. And I mean that – it has to be someone who deserves you. This isn’t about being conceited – it’s about recognizing your own self worth and staying in your integrity!

Here are the energy centers you want to work on to overcome the damage from the Archies who choose the Veronicas over you:

1. Heart Chakra – self-love & appreciation.
2. Solar Plexus – self-esteem & self-respect.
3. Sacral Chakra – emotional balance

Oh and keep your heart open to the Archies in the form of forgiveness. Forgiveness doesn’t mean that what Archie did was okay – it just means that you’re willing to let go of any resentment that you hold against him. Because it’s such a waste of mental and emotional energy to invest in the vicious cycle of resentment and unforgiveness. Everyone is learning and is on different paths – respect that and move on. It’s only a matter of time before the universe delivers a man who values the Betty in you. 🙂

This post was inspired by Betty rants with a good friend, the new “Riverdale” tv series recommended by that friend, and Valentine’s Day.

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