Posts tagged gratitude
10 Reasons Why - How to Deal with Disappointment

We've all had to deal with disappointment at some point in our lives - maybe we didn't get the job we wanted or a relationship that we hoped would have worked out fell apart. Occupying space in the gap between what we wanted that has not come to fruition and what will eventually manifest can be difficult. 

The way I like to deal with such experiences is to create a "10 Reasons Why" list. So, if I don't get something I really want for myself, I try to think of the blessings in the situation and jot them all down. I then keep this list close by me - I keep copies of it in my purse, at work, and at home and read it whenever I find myself going back into the feeling of disappointment and the thought of "why didn't this work out!"

In coming up with 10 reasons, I suggest focusing on the things that weren't optimal about the situation. For example, if it was a job that you wanted that didn't work out, there could have been some downsides to that particular position - maybe you would have had to move to a location you didn't want to be in, or maybe the compensation wasn't as a high you would have liked it to be or maybe you would have had to trade off other aspects of your life that were important to you. You basically want to create a list of all the negatives in the situation and then thank the universe for the blessing of not having to deal with them. Then you have to keep the faith that the right thing will come along in divine timing - which I know, is this super annoying force but it always operates at the best time and in your higher good. So it's annoyingly smart and you just have to trust that :). Also trust that if something is not happening for you now, it's because there's something else you are meant to be focusing on and learning from. Energy healing can be a powerful tool in helping you attain this insight and removing any energetic blockages that might be tampering with achieving your desires. 

By doing this exercise, you will be able to focus on gratitude as opposed to the feeling of lack or victimization and keep centered in your faith that the universe is your co-conspirator in creating the best possible outcome for yourself. And then when what you want finally comes around, just say "thanks universe for having my back!"

I hope you'll try this exercise! :)

Make Valentine's Day More Meaningful

Teddy bears, chocolates, perfume and jewelry – it’s that time of year again!

For those who are single, the sentiment surrounding this holiday can very much be like the way it is depicted in this video (I admit I have been here many times):

For those who are in relationships, there might be pressure to make everything perfect for their special someone. I will always remember seeing a bunch of men in a drug store on Valentine’s Day, staring confusedly at the stuffed animals and chocolates on display. I laughed because they were obviously buying something last minute and looked genuinely stressed out about it. It struck me as odd – all that pressure on a day that was supposed to be about a light-hearted, loving energy.

I personally love Valentine’s day. I think it’s sweet that there’s a day dedicated to focusing on all the relationships in your life – not just romantic relationships. It’s also a wonderful time to focus on the relationship that you have with yourself.

Unfortunately, this day does have a tendency to turn some people into harsh self-critics. There are expectations, especially in the media (take Victoria’s Secret for example), about how women should look like and act on this day. Men can also face the same pressure – it just takes their partner to get googley-eyed at a shirtless Chris Hemsworth before their self-esteem plummets!

So it’s no surprise that Valentine’s day can invoke feelings of insecurity. It’s easy to feel like you may not be good enough or attractive enough for someone to be into you. You can also feel like you’ve lost the “spark” in your relationship as the years have gone by and there’s no way of infusing it with a renewed sense of love and passion.

If these thoughts are entering your head – your solar plexus is out of whack and needs some loving care and attention. This is the energy center that is associated with confidence, security and self-esteem. When it’s healthy, we’re happy with how we are and have a fully developed sense of self. The energy from this center feeds another energy center, the heart chakra, because when we have a strong sense of self-respect and self-esteem, it’s easier for us to love and appreciate ourselves, even with our flaws. If these energy centers are healthy, they can set strong foundation for your relationships and can even attract new (positive and healthy) ones to you.

I personally think the best Valentine’s Day involves letting go of all the pressure of how things should look like, including how you look or whether there’s a special someone on your arm. It should involve focusing on gratitude for all the relationships that you have in your life. You can then find ways of expressing that gratitude to those people– maybe it’s buying them a meaningful token present, cooking them a meal, or taking them out to their favourite restaurant. The day should be about focusing on celebrating your relationships in whatever way is comfortable and meaningful to both you and your loved ones.

Here’s a little reminder of the energy centers to focus on for healthy love & relationships:

Solar Plexus – confidence, self-esteem, self-respect, and self-control

Heart Chakra – love, gratitude, self-appreciation, romance, and humanity

Wishing you a heart-opening and meaningful Valentine’s Day! 🙂

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