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Colour Me Calm
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Colouring books for adults have become a huge trend in the health and wellness world. The idea behind it is that as you colour, you focus your mind entirely on that activity so it quiets down and you experience a state of calm.

There’s science behind it – according to a psychologist, “The action involves both logic, by which we color forms, and creativity, when mixing and matching colors. This incorporates the areas of the cerebral cortex involved in vision and fine motor skills [coordination necessary to make small, precise movements]. The relaxation that it provides lowers the activity of the amygdala, a basic part of our brain involved in controlling emotion that is affected by stress.” 1

Well, the first few minutes of colouring was anything but calming for me. I was incredibly upset with myself – I had coloured outside the lines and there was no way of fixing that mistake. “Gah!” was my common exclamation throughout the activity. My sister remarked that what she was witnessing with my colouring was the exact opposite reaction the activity was meant to elicit. “I’m worried” she joked.

I found myself complaining about everything in my life that wasn’t working out as I continued to carefully fill in the flowers I was colouring.

Eventually, when I had nothing left to say, I quietened down. I just coloured. And I tried to stop berating myself when I made a mistake and coloured outside of the lines. I told myself it wasn’t about making it perfect. I was almost in a trance-like state. My thoughts just went away.

The whole activity was actually very insightful – I realized how deeply ingrained my perfectionism was and how I needed to relinquish control over what couldn’t be corrected (like colouring outside of the lines). I also realized how busy my mind was and how the frustrations of my life were almost like a track playing on repeat in my subconscious – not good! I always remember how Wayne Dyer used to say that what is in your subconscious mind drives your reality and it is so important to keep it positive.

I’ve committed to colouring weekly and I highly recommend it for anyone who is craving some peace in their lives – even for just a few minutes. It’s fun, calms you down, helps you realize what is bugging you on a subconscious level and it connects you with your inner child. Kick it up a notch by adding your favourite music. Sounds pretty soul nurturing – right?

Enjoy! 🙂

Notes:

  1. Gloria Martinez Ayala quoted in “Colouring Isn’t Just For Kids. It Can Actually Help Adults Combat Stress.” Huffington Post (October 2014) <http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2014/10/13/coloring-for-stress_n_5975832.html>. 
Healing Soul Trauma
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    “ There are things in life where your soul gets ripped apart but you can mend it, you can see it in a different way, you can move through that experience with grace. ” – Bryce Dallace Howard

There are things in life where your soul gets ripped apart but you can mend it, you can see it in a different way, you can move through that experience with grace.
– Bryce Dallace Howard

I recently watched Bryce Dallace Howard’s interview with Marie Forleo and loved when she said that. It resonated with me because alongside my own challenges, I have seen others in my life, including my beautiful clients, encounter challenges that have really made them feel broken, depressed, and dysfunctional.

Healing soul trauma involves understanding the ways in which your soul has been fragmented through certain experiences that have in turn, left you to acquire limiting beliefs and emotions that perpetuate a negative story within your psyche. This of course, creates an energetic imbalance that only attracts more of the same experience as opposed to something new that is in alignment with who you can be at your highest potential.

To illustrate the concept of soul trauma better, consider a relationship break-up as an example. Most people are familiar with or can imagine the pain that can be caused by this experience. It can lead to all sorts of feelings – anger, sadness, frustration, etc. Let’s say you were rejected – that can lead you to acquire the self-limiting belief of not being good enough. At this point, think about the damage done to your energy system – your heart chakra and astral field are already out of whack, as is your sacral chakra and emotional body. Add in the self-limiting belief, and your solar plexus and mental body takes a hit as well.

The way to correct these imbalances in energy healing is to conduct a soul retrieval – the idea being that the parts of yourself that were whole, complete and functional were left behind at the moment of the traumatic experience and must be retrieved. This isn’t something that energy healers can do by themselves – it is very much a collaborative effort with the person seeking healing, that involves the person facing their experiences from the past and identifying what self-limiting beliefs and emotions have been acquired as a result of those experiences. Then the person has to change the negative story playing in their psyche (i.e. I am not good enough) to a positive one (i.e. I am good enough but wasn’t valued by that person, so there is someone out there that will value me for who I am). This entire process can occur through self-reflection, introspection, or work with a professional such as a therapist.

The energy healer has the job of sending healing energy to assist with releasing repressed emotions and beliefs as a result of the traumatizing experience and reversing the damage done to the energy fields. People often have greater self-awareness after getting energy healing done – there is clarity that helps them to better identify the source of their problems and a positive outlook that provides them with the desire to move forward in a new direction.

Once the person reaches this point, the healing will begin to take effect and the person will begin to overcome their negative story and attract more positive experiences.

Moving Through Trauma With Grace
I have been thinking a lot about the nature of grace recently and I am starting to appreciate it more and more. It is often said that how a person weathers their storm is reflective of their character and I have always admired those who have handled their challenges with grace.

Upon encountering challenges, it’s very easy to turn to escapist behaviour, including addictions, which is why it’s important from an energy healing perspective to also focus on keeping the solar plexus strong (this is the center of willpower) and sacral chakra (the center of emotions, which feed addictions or co-dependent behaviours). Without these energy centers staying strong, a person can resort to avoiding having to deal with their challenges instead of overcoming them in a healthy way.

It is also important to heal the crown chakra, which is the center of faith. When you realize that everything happens for a reason, even if you can’t see it in the present moment, you are trusting a divine intelligence that is at work for your own personal growth, spiritual development, and higher good. Trust in this intelligence can fast-track your recovery, especially if you choose to stay connected with this higher energy through your challenges. This is perhaps the most difficult part of healing soul trauma, for it is often difficult to keep the faith when you feel like you have been victimized and it’s often a shift in perspective or spiritual understanding that can assist in this regard.

While the process of healing soul trauma can be difficult and take time, it can change a person’s being and life, which makes it well worth the effort.

Happy soul healing!

Make Valentine's Day More Meaningful

Teddy bears, chocolates, perfume and jewelry – it’s that time of year again!

For those who are single, the sentiment surrounding this holiday can very much be like the way it is depicted in this video (I admit I have been here many times):

For those who are in relationships, there might be pressure to make everything perfect for their special someone. I will always remember seeing a bunch of men in a drug store on Valentine’s Day, staring confusedly at the stuffed animals and chocolates on display. I laughed because they were obviously buying something last minute and looked genuinely stressed out about it. It struck me as odd – all that pressure on a day that was supposed to be about a light-hearted, loving energy.

I personally love Valentine’s day. I think it’s sweet that there’s a day dedicated to focusing on all the relationships in your life – not just romantic relationships. It’s also a wonderful time to focus on the relationship that you have with yourself.

Unfortunately, this day does have a tendency to turn some people into harsh self-critics. There are expectations, especially in the media (take Victoria’s Secret for example), about how women should look like and act on this day. Men can also face the same pressure – it just takes their partner to get googley-eyed at a shirtless Chris Hemsworth before their self-esteem plummets!

So it’s no surprise that Valentine’s day can invoke feelings of insecurity. It’s easy to feel like you may not be good enough or attractive enough for someone to be into you. You can also feel like you’ve lost the “spark” in your relationship as the years have gone by and there’s no way of infusing it with a renewed sense of love and passion.

If these thoughts are entering your head – your solar plexus is out of whack and needs some loving care and attention. This is the energy center that is associated with confidence, security and self-esteem. When it’s healthy, we’re happy with how we are and have a fully developed sense of self. The energy from this center feeds another energy center, the heart chakra, because when we have a strong sense of self-respect and self-esteem, it’s easier for us to love and appreciate ourselves, even with our flaws. If these energy centers are healthy, they can set strong foundation for your relationships and can even attract new (positive and healthy) ones to you.

I personally think the best Valentine’s Day involves letting go of all the pressure of how things should look like, including how you look or whether there’s a special someone on your arm. It should involve focusing on gratitude for all the relationships that you have in your life. You can then find ways of expressing that gratitude to those people– maybe it’s buying them a meaningful token present, cooking them a meal, or taking them out to their favourite restaurant. The day should be about focusing on celebrating your relationships in whatever way is comfortable and meaningful to both you and your loved ones.

Here’s a little reminder of the energy centers to focus on for healthy love & relationships:

Solar Plexus – confidence, self-esteem, self-respect, and self-control

Heart Chakra – love, gratitude, self-appreciation, romance, and humanity

Wishing you a heart-opening and meaningful Valentine’s Day! 🙂

  1. Video Source: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NsQ4dm3q8f0