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The Art of Consideration

We live in a world that seems to demand that we be focused on ourselves, our aspirations, and our development. And while that is all good – when focusing on these things gets out of balance, it can result in us becoming self-absorbed and loosing our consideration.

I have been incredibly fortunate to be surrounded by considerate people – my friends especially, are living embodiments of consideration. Take the one who showed up at my house with a birthday present in the midst of preparing for her wedding that was only a couple of days later or the one that got a healthy meal made for me when I was unwell during law school in the midst of her final exams.

These girls have been my inspiration.

The truth is that there is so much more to life than just yourself. And making the mental space for others and actively checking in and caring about others is how we should all exist as human beings. I believe the world functioned this way back in the older days, where a community based approach to living and watching out for your tribe was a natural way of being. Somehow, over time, society has become increasingly egocentric by placing people’s individual needs over the needs of others. This tendency may be allowing for an incredible amount of success, especially in one’s career life, but it’s poisoning relationships and making people forget that another person’s life is equally as important as their own – irrespective of race, class, gender, profession, or religious background.

I think that we each have so much to offer to others and that connecting with others, sharing ideas and helping is so important.

So it saddens me to see a culture where consideration is a somewhat rare trait. Where people don’t care about someone unless that someone is “of their own”. Where basic principles of being respectful and kind and reciprocating assistance is thrown out the window in favour of focusing on oneself. Where people expect for the world to bend for them but not the other way around.

Have we not failed as a society in inculcating good values if people are operating solely from their ego?

Consideration in Energy Healing
The energy center that speaks to how we relate to others is the sacral chakra. This energy center tends to have an over-active “yan” or masculine energy when one is self-focused or an over-active “yin” energy when one is overly focused on others. The key is for a healthy balance – one that allows you to progress forward personally but does not impact your consideration for others.

The heart chakra is the center of giving. An open heart gives and a closed one only receives.

A good energy healing session can restore balance to both these chakras.

To work on your consideration alongside energy healing, start off by checking in with other people, seeing how you can help, and taking out time everyday to do something for someone other than for yourself.

As Ellen Degeneres says, “be kind to one another” – always.

To the Bettys of This World

Okay – this one is for the ladies but men, feel free to substitute yourself in Betty’s place if you feel you can relate.

Back in the day when Archie Comics were a thing, who did you relate to? Was it Betty? Or Veronica?

I personally related to Betty and I still do. I remember complaining to my friends for years about being Betty, not Veronica, and most men not valuing that.

I also remember falling in love with Michael Vartan’s character in “Never Been Kissed” when he told Drew Barrymore’s character – a young, not so popular, sweet girl “I always liked Betty better”.

I’m sure any girl who identifies with Betty would swoon at the thought of a man loving the Betty in her. Betty was sweet, caring, down-to-earth and real.

Veronica was… legs… I mean don’t get me wrong – she had her moments, but she was super high maintenance and kind of superficial.

I have so many friends who have been rejected on the basis of their good “Betty character”. None of them expected being rejected for having values that they have paid attention to cultivating because they are genuinely committed to being good human beings. And that’s why it hurts them so much – because if someone doesn’t think you’re physically attractive it can certainly mess with your self-esteem but when the basis of rejection runs to the core of who you are, it just hurts on a whole other level.

So to those women who can relate and are still single and frustrated, I say this – say bye to the men who don’t value and appreciate you for who you are. Never change the Betty in you to please the man who expects a Veronica. And if a man finds your good character intimidating and runs for the hills – great – he’s not the right person for you.

I honestly believe that there’s no such thing as “the one” – don’t be discouraged if the person you thought was “the one” didn’t work out. The universe always sends soulmate relationships our way. These are relationships marked by a deep connection, mutual respect and appreciation. You should always choose someone who deserves you. And I mean that – it has to be someone who deserves you. This isn’t about being conceited – it’s about recognizing your own self worth and staying in your integrity!

Here are the energy centers you want to work on to overcome the damage from the Archies who choose the Veronicas over you:

1. Heart Chakra – self-love & appreciation.
2. Solar Plexus – self-esteem & self-respect.
3. Sacral Chakra – emotional balance

Oh and keep your heart open to the Archies in the form of forgiveness. Forgiveness doesn’t mean that what Archie did was okay – it just means that you’re willing to let go of any resentment that you hold against him. Because it’s such a waste of mental and emotional energy to invest in the vicious cycle of resentment and unforgiveness. Everyone is learning and is on different paths – respect that and move on. It’s only a matter of time before the universe delivers a man who values the Betty in you. 🙂

This post was inspired by Betty rants with a good friend, the new “Riverdale” tv series recommended by that friend, and Valentine’s Day.

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Healing Soul Trauma
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    “ There are things in life where your soul gets ripped apart but you can mend it, you can see it in a different way, you can move through that experience with grace. ” – Bryce Dallace Howard

There are things in life where your soul gets ripped apart but you can mend it, you can see it in a different way, you can move through that experience with grace.
– Bryce Dallace Howard

I recently watched Bryce Dallace Howard’s interview with Marie Forleo and loved when she said that. It resonated with me because alongside my own challenges, I have seen others in my life, including my beautiful clients, encounter challenges that have really made them feel broken, depressed, and dysfunctional.

Healing soul trauma involves understanding the ways in which your soul has been fragmented through certain experiences that have in turn, left you to acquire limiting beliefs and emotions that perpetuate a negative story within your psyche. This of course, creates an energetic imbalance that only attracts more of the same experience as opposed to something new that is in alignment with who you can be at your highest potential.

To illustrate the concept of soul trauma better, consider a relationship break-up as an example. Most people are familiar with or can imagine the pain that can be caused by this experience. It can lead to all sorts of feelings – anger, sadness, frustration, etc. Let’s say you were rejected – that can lead you to acquire the self-limiting belief of not being good enough. At this point, think about the damage done to your energy system – your heart chakra and astral field are already out of whack, as is your sacral chakra and emotional body. Add in the self-limiting belief, and your solar plexus and mental body takes a hit as well.

The way to correct these imbalances in energy healing is to conduct a soul retrieval – the idea being that the parts of yourself that were whole, complete and functional were left behind at the moment of the traumatic experience and must be retrieved. This isn’t something that energy healers can do by themselves – it is very much a collaborative effort with the person seeking healing, that involves the person facing their experiences from the past and identifying what self-limiting beliefs and emotions have been acquired as a result of those experiences. Then the person has to change the negative story playing in their psyche (i.e. I am not good enough) to a positive one (i.e. I am good enough but wasn’t valued by that person, so there is someone out there that will value me for who I am). This entire process can occur through self-reflection, introspection, or work with a professional such as a therapist.

The energy healer has the job of sending healing energy to assist with releasing repressed emotions and beliefs as a result of the traumatizing experience and reversing the damage done to the energy fields. People often have greater self-awareness after getting energy healing done – there is clarity that helps them to better identify the source of their problems and a positive outlook that provides them with the desire to move forward in a new direction.

Once the person reaches this point, the healing will begin to take effect and the person will begin to overcome their negative story and attract more positive experiences.

Moving Through Trauma With Grace
I have been thinking a lot about the nature of grace recently and I am starting to appreciate it more and more. It is often said that how a person weathers their storm is reflective of their character and I have always admired those who have handled their challenges with grace.

Upon encountering challenges, it’s very easy to turn to escapist behaviour, including addictions, which is why it’s important from an energy healing perspective to also focus on keeping the solar plexus strong (this is the center of willpower) and sacral chakra (the center of emotions, which feed addictions or co-dependent behaviours). Without these energy centers staying strong, a person can resort to avoiding having to deal with their challenges instead of overcoming them in a healthy way.

It is also important to heal the crown chakra, which is the center of faith. When you realize that everything happens for a reason, even if you can’t see it in the present moment, you are trusting a divine intelligence that is at work for your own personal growth, spiritual development, and higher good. Trust in this intelligence can fast-track your recovery, especially if you choose to stay connected with this higher energy through your challenges. This is perhaps the most difficult part of healing soul trauma, for it is often difficult to keep the faith when you feel like you have been victimized and it’s often a shift in perspective or spiritual understanding that can assist in this regard.

While the process of healing soul trauma can be difficult and take time, it can change a person’s being and life, which makes it well worth the effort.

Happy soul healing!